diff --git a/komrade/backend/komrades.py b/komrade/backend/komrades.py
index 936889a..d33ffda 100644
--- a/komrade/backend/komrades.py
+++ b/komrade/backend/komrades.py
@@ -390,19 +390,32 @@ class KomradeX(Caller):
         self.log('->',res)
         return res
 
-    def save_inbox(self,post_ids):
-        self.crypt_keys.set(
-            self.uri,
-            BSEP.join(post_ids),
-            '/inbox/',
+    def save_inbox(self,
+            post_ids,
+            uri=None,
+            encrypted=False):
+        self.log('<-',post_ids)
+        newval = BSEP.join(post_ids)
+        
+        res = self.crypt_keys.set(
+            self.uri if not uri else uri,
+            newval,
+            prefix='/inbox/',
             override=True
         )
+        assert newval == self.crypt_keys.get(
+            self.uri,
+            prefix='/inbox/'
+        )
+        self.log('->',res)
+        return res
 
     def delete_msg(self,post_id):
         return self.delete_msgs([post_id])
 
     def delete_msgs(self,post_ids):
-        #inbox_ids = self.get_inbox_ids().get('inbox',[])
+        inbox_ids = self.get_inbox_ids().get('inbox',[])
+        #print(inbox_ids,'v1',len(inbox_ids))
         deleted=[]
         for post_id in post_ids:
             #print('deleting post:',post_id)
@@ -411,16 +424,22 @@ class KomradeX(Caller):
                 prefix='/post/',
             )
             deleted+=[post_id]
-        return {
+        
+            #print(post_id,inbox_ids,post_id in inbox_ids,'???')
+            # stop
+            if post_id in inbox_ids:
+                print('removing from inbox...')
+                inbox_ids.remove(post_id)
+        self.save_inbox(inbox_ids)
+        #print(inbox_ids,'v2',len(inbox_ids))
+
+        res= {
             'success':not bool(set(post_ids) - set(deleted)),
             'status':f'Deleted {len(deleted)} messages.',
             'deleted':deleted
         }
-            # print(post_id,inbox_ids,post_id in inbox_ids,'???')
-            # stop
-            #if post_id in inbox_ids:
-            #    inbox_ids.remove(post_id)
-        #self.save_inbox(inbox_ids)
+        self.log('delete_msgs ->',res)
+        return res
 
     def inbox(self,topn=100,only_unread=False,delete_malformed=False):
         # refreshing inbox
@@ -606,6 +625,18 @@ class KomradeX(Caller):
         if not name and not pubkey:
             return {'success':False,'status':'Meet whom?'}
 
+
+        keystr=self.name+'->'+name
+
+        if self.crypt_keys.get(
+            keystr,
+            prefix='/met/'
+        ):
+            return {
+                'success':False,
+                'status':f'You have already sent an introduction to @{name}. It would be rude to send another.'
+            }
+
         msg_to_op = {
             'name':self.name,
             'secret_login':self.secret_login,
@@ -623,6 +654,13 @@ class KomradeX(Caller):
         )
         # print('res from op',res)
 
+        # record that I've already tried this
+        self.crypt_keys.set(
+            keystr,
+            b'y',
+            prefix='/met/'
+        )
+
         return res
 
 
diff --git a/komrade/backend/the_operator.py b/komrade/backend/the_operator.py
index 3eb1c1f..ba60407 100644
--- a/komrade/backend/the_operator.py
+++ b/komrade/backend/the_operator.py
@@ -485,7 +485,7 @@ from_komrade = {from_komrade}
                 'pubkey',
                 'post_ids',
             ],
-            delete_afterward=False):
+            delete_afterward=True):
 
         # logged in?
         login_res = self.login(msg_to_op)
@@ -505,22 +505,69 @@ from_komrade = {from_komrade}
             self.log('looking for:',post_id,post)
         self.log(f'I {self} found {len(posts)} for {msg_to_op.from_name}')
 
+        # delete?
+        res = {
+            'status':'Succeeded in downloading new messages.' + (' I\'ve already deleted these messages from the server.' if delete_afterward else ''),
+            'success':True,
+            'data_encr':posts
+        }
+
         # delete?
         if delete_afterward:
-            # @hack: this a bit dangerous?
-            for post_id in posts:
-                self.crypt_keys.delete(
-                    post_id,
-                    prefix='/post/'
+            res['res_delete_msgs'] = self.delete_msgs(
+                post_ids,
+                inbox_uri = b64enc(
+                    msg_to_op.data.get('pubkey')
                 )
-                self.log('deleting post id',post_id,'...')
+            )
+        
+        # show res
+        self.log('->',res)
+        return res
+        
         
+
+    def delete_msgs(self,post_ids,inbox_uri=None):
+        # @hack: this a bit dangerous?
+        for post_id in post_ids:
+            self.crypt_keys.delete(
+                post_id,
+                prefix='/post/'
+            )
+            self.log('deleting post id',post_id,'...')
+
+        # if inbox, remove these posts from it
+        if inbox_uri:
+            # unwrap
+            inbox_encr = self.crypt_keys.get(
+                inbox_uri,
+                prefix='/inbox/'
+            )
+            inbox = SMessage(
+                self.privkey.data,
+                b64dec(inbox_uri)
+            ).unwrap(inbox_encr)
+            self.log('unwrapped inbox_encr:',inbox)
+            inbox_l = inbox.split(BSEP)
+            self.log('length v1:',len(inbox_l))
+
+            # alter
+            inbox_l = [pid for pid in inbox_l if pid not in post_ids]
+            self.log('length v2:',len(inbox_l))
+            
+            # rewrap
+            inbox = inbox_l.split(BSEP)
+            inbox_encr = SMessage(
+                self.privkey.data,
+                b64dec(inbox_uri)
+            ).wrap(inbox)
+
         return {
-            'status':'Succeeded in downloading new messages.' + (' I\'ve already deleted these messages from the server.' if delete_afterward else ''),
             'success':True,
-            'data_encr':posts
+            'deleted':post_ids,
         }
 
+
     def introduce_komrades(self,msg_to_op):
         # # logged in?
         # self.log('introduce got:',msg_to_op)
diff --git a/komrade/cli/cli.py b/komrade/cli/cli.py
index 0588e7c..71e1210 100644
--- a/komrade/cli/cli.py
+++ b/komrade/cli/cli.py
@@ -337,15 +337,18 @@ class CLI(Logger):
             else:
                 clear_screen()
                 for i,msg in enumerate(msgs):
-                    self.stat(f'Showing message {i+1} of {len(msgs)}.')
-                    print()
-                    print(msg)
-                    # self.print('DATA',msg.msg_d)
-                    if msg.data.get('prompt_id')=='addcontact':
-                        self.prompt_adduser(msg)
-                    
-                    self.prompt_msg(msg)
-                    clear_screen()
+                    try:
+                        self.stat(f'Showing message {i+1} of {len(msgs)}, from newest to oldest. Hit Ctrl+D to exit.')
+                        print()
+                        print(msg)
+                        # self.print('DATA',msg.msg_d)
+                        if msg.data.get('prompt_id')=='addcontact':
+                            self.prompt_adduser(msg)
+                        
+                        self.prompt_msg(msg)
+                        clear_screen()
+                    except EOFError:
+                        break
                 self.help()